What To Do When Your Children Make You Bonkers!!!

A couple of weeks ago I had a hard time enjoying my children. You know what I’m talking about? Those days where everything your children do annoys you and you have no patience for their weird quirks. Their sibling rivalry makes you want to punch a hole in the wall and you kind of just want to lock yourself in the bathroom and stuff your face with ice-cream and go brain dead looking at Pinterest. Any one else have those days?

Well, I have those days but I don’t like them. Those days make me feel like I’m drowning amidst a crowd of people-scared and lonely. I also feel guilty and down right ashamed. In all reality my kids are really wonderful. They have their days and moments of disobedience like any human being but they are truly sweet, little boys. And the greatest truth of all- I love them like crazy!!!! If that is the case, then why do I feel this way? Why do I lack affection for my children and why do I find little to no delight in them? They should be one of my greatest joys! Shouldn’t they?

When days like this come I have to ask myself, “Where am I getting lazy in my parenting? Why are my children are not listening like they should? Is their something I could be doing better or am I not being consistent?” For if we want to be honest with ourselves, a lot of what we do as a parent has a ripple affect on our children’s behavior. Not saying that if we were great parents we would have perfect children because perfect children and perfect parenting is unrealistic and not possible this side of heaven. But consistent and firm parenting is possible and should be a priority. I hate having to do it but when my children are driving me crazy with their behavior than I need figure out what I need to do differently and take responsibility as their mom.

I also ask the question, “Is Satan attacking my family by making me discontent with my children?” Cause lets face it, Satan hates us and he hates our kids. He is going to do anything he can to cause disunity and a lack of peace. When we lack affection and delight in our children they can sense it. They are not oblivious to our disdain and our rejection. That causes hurt in the heart of our children and can cause more misbehavior and frustration. You know how it is! When someone is annoyed with you, it makes you feel belittled and hurt. Our children are no different. And Satan loves this. He wants our families to be chaotic and lacking in love.

When I was dealing with this dislike for my kids I sat down while they slept and asked God for help. I knew that Satan was attacking me and I knew that I was being inconsistent in my discipline. But I needed a heart change then and now. I was going to do what I needed to keep my children in check but I was feeling rather angry and did not even want to be a mom at that moment. I wanted to like my children.

What God told me to do was not exactly what I expected. I was hoping for some spiritual revelation or great insight that would make me an insane, great human being. That didn’t happen. Instead, God told me to write some lists.

So, if you find yourself in that discontent funk I encourage you to do what I did. Write gratitude lists……

Lists of Gratitude

List 1: 10 or more things you love about your child. *Read them to your children so they can know what you love about them.

List 2: 10 or more things you like about the ministry of motherhood

List 3: 5 or more things you are grateful for in your life

Here are the lists I made about my two boys to give examples:

What I love about Isaiah:

  1. He is caring
  2.  He is obsessed with becoming a man
  3.  He loves to wrestle
  4.  He wants to help
  5. He has a beautiful smile
  6. He is protective of me
  7.  He is outgoing and likes people
  8.  I love watching him go outside and pretend to hunt
  9.  He has a contagious laugh
  10.  He doesn’t back down easily
  11.  He likes asking questions and wants to understand things

What I love about Luke:

  1. He is easy-going
  2. He is gentle
  3. His chubby hands
  4. His hugs
  5. The car noises he makes when he is playing
  6. The way he wobbles when he runs
  7. He puckers up his lips to kiss me
  8. His joy of looking at books
  9. The way he hugs his brother
  10. His love to be held shows me he wants to be near me

With these lists, I was able to turn my  discontent to gratitude. And let me tell you, it was a complete 360 turn. I was amazed at how it helped me. Did I still have to combat the negative thoughts that crept up? Yes! But these lists infused me with new strength. Gratitude is powerful like that.

For anyone wanting to try this I made a fun list template you can print out and hang up in your house. It is always good to have reminders when those days come again. Because if we are honest with ourselves, those days will come again. But we don’t have to be stuck in that funk. We have a way to get out. God bless you wonderful mommas!!

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Joovy Nook High Chair Review

Joovy Nook High Chair Review

When I was pregnant with Lillian I did crazy amounts of research and reading – from pregnancy “don’t’s” to what you need and don’t need for baby, to how to clip their fingernails – you name it, I’ve most likely read up on it! So when it came time to set up my baby registry I had a pretty good idea in my mind what I wanted. When it came to a high chair though, I had come to the decision to forgo the use of one. We live in a small little two bedroom, 675 square foot house and I didn’t really have the space to store a high chair.

So, we decided to use the Ingenuity Baby Base 2-in-1 Seat. First of all, let me say I love this seat. It is so handy and was perfect for our needs.We don’t have kitchen chairs with backs so we simply placed her on the table and she ate with us from there. It worked for us.

Until Lillian began to jostle around like crazy. I was beginning to panic that she would move around too much and tip right off the table! So began the search for a high chair.

I needed something light and easy to use – a high chair that folded up nicely and didn’t require much space for storing and didn’t cost an arm and a leg. (I seriously couldn’t believe how expensive most high chairs were!)

There are so many great high chairs out there but I decided on the Joovy Nook High Chair. These are my favorite things about this high chair.

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Joovy Nook High Chair


  1. AFFORDABLE – I personally went with the coral color as it was the most affordable and yet still tasteful and pretty. Most high chairs I looked at were way over my budget so the Joovy Nook in Coral coming in at $80 was basically an A+ factor for me. PLUS – with Amazon Prime, you get free shipping with easy returns! Score!
  2. ATTRACTIVE – perhaps it’s petty, but I didn’t want a big old ugly high chair sitting in my kitchen. Call me vain – whatever! But I love how clean and tasteful the Joovy Nook High Chair is. If you know me at all you know that I am a lover of all things white. Mix in some beautiful coral and I’m sold. The legs and tray are a beautiful, clean white, and the seat is a perfect shade of coral. They also come in black, charcoal, turquoise or red.
  3. EASY TO USE – I love that the Joovy High Chair unfolds and folds easily, it’s light (only 15.4lbs) and has a large tray (21in wide) and tray insert that unhooks for easy cleaning. AND, the tray is swing open with adjustable positions. As Lillian grows I can easily adjust the tray position so she isn’t squished or too far away from her food.
  4. CLEANS WELL – I am slightly OCD when it comes to cleaning and so one of my favorite features of the Joovy Nook High Chair is the removable seat cover. There are no hidden spots where food can get crammed in and mold because you can’t reach it! The coral seat cover unhooks and is so easy to wipe clean with a washcloth or Lysol Wipe, as well as being machine washable!
  5. SAFE – obviously I want to know that my babies are going to be safe while in their high chairs. You hear those random stories of babies getting folded up in high chairs and all and it can make you second guess products! But with the Joovy Nook, I feel completely safe. Not only is there a 5 point harness, but it folds forward so I’m pretty positive it’s not even possible for Lillian to get folded into it! The maximum weight limit is 50lbs so we have lots of time to use the high chair still!
  6. COMPACT/SPACE SAVING – This high chair stores beautifully. As I mentioned before, our house is tiny and so I wanted a high chair that folded up relatively small. And I got it! I love how easy it is to store this chair. When folded, the Joovy Nook High Chair is 23.8 x 9 x 28.5 in. The perfect space-saving seat as well as portable.

Let me also note that this comes assembled and everything. No assembly acquired! Which is awesome if you, like myself, aren’t very good at that kind of thing.

Is there anything I would change about the Joovy Nook High Chair?

Not really. But I do think that the one feature that could make this even better would be wheels. Having wheels would make moving the chair around with Lillian sitting in it easier. But honestly, it is so light it’s really not that hard to just lift it. And that’s coming from me – I’m not what you would call a bodybuilder! 🙂 BUT – Joovy does have a similar high chair that does have wheels. You can find that one HERE! I simply just opted for the more affordable version.

So if you are looking around for a nice high chair and are completely at a loss because the reviews are all over the place and everyone has different opinions about EVERYTHING – give the Joovy Nook High Chair a try! I don’t think you’ll be disappointed. But even then, you can simply return it.

Happy high chair hunting!

Should We Demand Obedience From Our Children?

God has really been laying on my heart how important it is to teach our children obedience. That may seem silly to you because, well duh, of course you want your children to obey, right? But how many of us truly require that our children obey? And I’m not talking about obeying after you have asked three times for them to do what you have asked. For that is in fact not obedience. I am talking about insuring that your children listen and do what they are told the first time. Why is it so important? Is it really such a big deal when you have to repeat your request 3 or 4 times? I mean, eventually they do it so what is the big deal?

Everywhere I look now a days it seems that children are no longer required to listen or obey their parents. We are told not to stifle their creativity or crush their spirit. As if requiring obedience is cruel and un-loving. How could wanting good things for our children be unkind? I believe it is more selfish than loving to not demand obedience. We would rather our children like us than lay down authority. And yet the ironic thing is, children rarely like or respect a parent that does not set boundaries or require obedience.

The world thinks that children thrive better with NO boundaries and are better off running free. That could never be farther from the truth. Boundaries help a child feel safe and loved. Boundaries and rules helps a child know they are cared for. It helps them know that they are not alone. They are reassured that they don’t have to figure this whole ‘life’ thing out on their own.

We know obedience is good for our childrens physical well-being but what about the spiritual and the state of their heart? Perhaps I am a bit slower, but I honestly only just came to terms with the part obedience took on the spiritual well-being of my children. Shamefully I confess, I just wanted them to listen so they wouldn’t drive me bonkers and wouldn’t make me look bad in front of other people. Selfish, right? Majorly selfish! I knew that the bible told children to obey and honor their parents but realizing how important that was for the hearts of my children didn’t happen until this past year. Now, with God showing me the error of my ways, I have come to terms with how important my job is to teach and train my children in obedience. If I fail at that, than I may as well have failed as a mom.

(Does this mean I am a perfect mother and I have wonderful children that obey 100% of the time? No. Big NO!!! My children are human beings that sin and fail just like me. But when it comes to learning the art of obedience, I want my children to always be getting better and moving forward in the right direction. So with that being said, lets continue.)

Now, I am speaking of obedience in the physical sense but also in the spiritual. We can train our children obedience but if they have an attitude of defiance while doing what is asked, then their is still a seed of rebellion in their hearts. That must be addressed as well. Outward and inward obedience is what I am writing about today. Both are of equal importance. You can really not have one without the other.

What does the bible say about children being obedient and why do I believe it is fundamental in the training of our children?

Firstly, it is one of the commandments of God. So I figure, it must be pretty important. Deuteronomy 5:16 “Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, that your days may be prolonged and that it may go well with on the land which the Lord your God gives you.”    *Paul also mentions this verse in Ephesians 6:1-2 telling children to “obey your parents in the lord for this is right.” This is the first commandment with a promise. I beautiful promise that shows us that God wants to give good things to his children. He wants us to live well. But that can only happen when we are obedient. Why? Why is being obedient to parents so important to God’s heart?

I truly believe that it is so important to God for this reason- If a child never learns to respect, honor and obey his/her parents than they will lack the discipline to honor and obey God. If a child is never trained to trust in the word of authority how will they ever trust the authority of God. When God asks them to do something that doesn’t make sense, will your child obey, trusting the authority of God, or will they shrug off God’s commands not wanting to do it for lack of wanting to know ‘WHY’?

Doing as God has commanded and listening to His word is of utter importance to God. In Deuteronomy 12: 28 God says, “Be careful to listen to all these words which I command you, so that it may be well with you and your sons after you forever, for you will be doing what is good and right in sight of the Lord your God.”  And farther down in verse 32 He repeats himself, “Whatever I command you, you shall be careful to do; you shall not add to nor take away from it.”

Jesus also states int he New Testament, “He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me….If anyone loves Me, he will keep my word; and my father will love him…”  John 14:21 & 23

Another excellent point, “If you love me you will do what I command.” When we obey, we show our love for God. When our children obey it is a way for them to express love. Love for us and love for God. That is the greatest commandment is it not? “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” Deuteronomy 6:5.

When our children obey, they open a door for God’s blessing to overflow on them. (Look at Deuteronomy 21: 18-21 to see the wonderful list of blessings that God promises to Israel if they kept his commands.) They please God and God’s love is able to overflow over them. I don’t know about you, but I want God’s blessings over my kids. I want them to dwell in the presence of God and I want the love of God to overshadow them. And if teaching them obedience is what can help that happen, than I want to do my job well and not give into laziness and passivity.

There is also a fine line that us a parents need to make sure we do not cross when demanding obedience from our children. Paul goes on to mention in Ephesians 6, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” verse 4. I believe Paul mentioned this because we as parents can over due the demand of obedience. Everything we do must be done in love. Do not demand the impossible from your children. Know that mistakes will happen. Use those times to “bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Never demand perfection. Never expect your children to want to lovingly obey you if you show little to know interest in them. Training our children in obedience takes a lot of time and a lot of love. Fellowship with our kids is vital. Make them want to obey you. If our children do not find great joy in us they will not find great joy in obeying us.

This idea of obedience may seem over bearing and impossible. Perhaps you are thinking I seem like a nasty dictator. I promise I am not. Merely, my main point is: As parents in our lazy, passive culture, we are in danger of failing our children. We are in danger of not training our children in one of the greatest disciplines they can ever learn in their life. All because we are too tired and sick of dealing with it. May we pray for new strength and perseverance so it may never be so.

How Training in Obedience changed my Parenting:

Looking at obedience in the light of God’s blessings over my children has completely changed the way I approach my children. It has given me a more loving, tender heart towards them as I discipline them. Instead of taking their offenses personally I can now take their disobedience and find ways where I need to improve my training. These revelations have also given me new strength. Mothering is daunting and exhausting but when I see how important my role is in teaching them obedience, I don’t want to get lazy and slack off. I don’t want to just let that bad attitude slide or that lack of obedience go unchecked. This job is much too important to give into the lie that I am too tired and I can’t do it anymore. I want the best for my children. And many times, their best comes at a high and inconvenient cost to me.

God bless. And I hope that this article can be an encouragement to some of you.

**What creative consequences do you give your children when they are disobedient? I would love to hear what works for other moms out there. I am always learning and love advice.***




15 Days of Valentine’s Challenge

15 Days of Valentine’s Challenge

As a young girl, I would dress up in oversized dresses and heels and prance along the driveway singing at the top of my lungs, “SOMEDAY MY PRINCE WILL COME!!!” I was in love with the idea of love and what that would mean in my life. To be loved by someone who would choose to spend their whole life with you? What joy! How amazing! Now, I look at my husband and my heart is full.I have been blessed with a man more perfect for me than my daydreaming child mind could have imagined. Not a perfect man mind you – but a man I know God created with me in mind.

Our marriage is not perfect but God has used, and shapes, every mistake, every “I’m sorry,” every kiss, and every day into a beautiful example of His grace and goodness. My thoughts on love NOW are different from my 7-year-old mind – they are better. Maybe not perfect, but better.

So now, February is coming and with it comes “the day of love.” Valentine’s Day. Some hate this holiday and some love it, and others simply tolerate it.

I personally don’t mind it either way. I attempt to love my husband in little ways every day so he knows I love and appreciate him (no, I don’t always succeed) – but Valentine’s Day is basically a “set in stone date night” and I’m not complaining about that!

But lately, I have been praying and struggling through heart issues in my own life, and my sweet husband has been nothing but supportive through my hormonal upheaval. So, I feel the desire to TRULY do some things to remind Kyle just how much he means to me! HENCE – my 15 Days of Valentine’s Challenge.

My idea stems from the 12 Days of Christmas, with a different item being given every day until Christmas. But instead, I’m doing this with Valentines. Every day until Valentine’s Day I have come up with something different to show Kyle how much I love him and all he does for our family. Nothing big or expensive, but simply ways to make the month of February especially meaningful.

Do you want to join me in this challenge??

I would love for February to be a month of joy and love for all of the men in our lives! God has blessed us and is the epitome of love – let’s share some of that! <3 <3

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15 Days of Valentines Challenge 

February 1st:

Start the day off right! Get up early and bring him a cup of coffee in bed. Added bonus? Include a little love note <3 (This chalkboard mug is perfect!)

February 2nd:

Write a little love note and put it somewhere he will find during the day – his coat pocket, wallet, or on his desk? Or set a secret note on his phone to go off at a certain time!

February 3rd:

Clean his car or truck for him and leave a couple notes on his dashboard. (Need some help with love notes? These love note cards can help!)

15 days of valentines challenge loving your man show your husband love

February 4th:

Bring him/pack him a lunch (or bring him his favorite coffee) with a special gift or note inside!

February 5th:

Send him surprise flirty and loving texts throughout the day (see our POST here)

February 6th:

Place sticky notes around the house where he will find them – listing the things you love about him! (These sticky notes are way cute!)

February 7th:

Turn on his favorite sport or movie (without being asked) and sit and watch it with him – actually watch it with him. Not on your phone, etc.

February 8th:

Before he leaves, turn on his car and warm it up for him. Leave his favorite candy on the seat with a love note for the day!

February 9th:

Bring home a rented movie and take out food that HE likes!

February 10th:

Post something on social media about him! Take some time to brag about your awesome guy!

February 11th:

Give him a foot/back massage after work.

February 12th:

Put something nice/sexy on and surprise him after the kids go to bed! (Dillards has some really nice options in this department 🙂 )February 13th:

Turn on music and dance together (or if you aren’t a dancer, play a game! Some favorites of my husband and I are cribbage, Yahtzee, Tenzi, a favorite puzzle, Mexican Train or sometimes we flip on Mario Kart Wii) 🙂

February 14th:

Make his favorite dinner/dessert combo complete with candles, a tent, music, sparkling cider, etc.  – make it romantic if you’re staying in or enjoy a night out for Valentine’s dinner!

February 15th:

Bring him coffee in bed again. Valentine’s day is over, yes. But it’s always good to do and say little things to our guys on a consistent basis! We shouldn’t need a national holiday to remind us!

Now Ladies – I do realize that every man is different! Adjust your challenge to your lifestyle, gravitated towards the things you know your husband will love! And most importantly,  remember to pray for your man! Nothing could be more powerful and more loving than to be a wife that prayers over her husband.

Let’s pray together and watch what the Lord can accomplish in our marriages this February! 🙂



Need some gift ideas for your guy? Check out

14 Novel Gifts Your Man Will Actually Love 

Looking for more on ways to love your man? Check out these:

Practical Ways to Communicate Respect to your Man 

 67 Different Ways to Say I Love You

67 Different Ways to Say I love you

Do you ever get stuck on “I love you?” Those three little words hold so much weight and yet at times I feel “I love you” just doesn’t encompass everything I feel in my heart! Sometimes you just need a new way to express that love to your husband.

So without further ado – here are 67 different ways to say I love you – other than just “I love you” 🙂

different ways to say i love you

I just recently took the Love Languages test again. The last time I took the test was before I was married and Kyle and I were just dating. I find it interesting how your love language can change throughout different parts of your life! My number one love language was COMPLETELY different than when I originally took the test. This is an important thing to keep in my for your husband as well. Every man is different and seasons change – perhaps at one point in time the best way to say “I love you” will be different than another.

Keep praying, friend! And keep a watchful eye out for the best ways to love your husband!


For more on loving your husband, check out:

Communicate Respect to Your Man 

14 Novel Gifts Your Man Will Actually Love 

15 Days of Valentine’s