As I sat on our couch brainstorming what to write about, the options were limitless and almost overwhelming. So like any normal woman, I asked my chiseled man his opinion…
“Write about how sexy I am!”
No joke – that’s what he said – with a mischievous gleam in his eye and his shoulders shaking as he laughed, obviously thinking he was HILARIOUS!
Man, I stinking love that man. I can’t help but be entertained by his adorable albeit ridiculous jokes!
But as I began to settle myself back down to brainstorming, I realized maybe it wasn’t such a bad idea after all. My mind began to dwell on all the wonderful things I love about Kyle – things that make him “sexy.” Of course there’s the obvious fact that he truly is incredibly good looking-
but so many of the things that make him unwaveringly handsome are beyond physical.
The way he looks at me, tickles my arm, and calls to see how I’m doing during the day. The fact that he gets Lillian out of bed and makes the coffee so that I, being possibly one of the worst morning people ever, can lay in bed an extra 10 minutes “waking up.” I could go on and on about this man I call “mine” but I know you don’t REALLY care that much. And that’s okay because it might be a little weird if you felt the same way! Ha!
BUT, as I pondered my life with Kyle, I began to reflect on myself and the roll I played as his wife. How do I show Kyle this is how I love him? How do I actively love and respect him?
Now, dear reader, allow me to backtrack for just a moment – before Kyle and I were married we did the video series “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerich’s. If you have not had a chance to do this series I would absolutely recommend it. It was fabulous – not only enlightening but surprisingly entertaining. I personally feel that this has made an impact on our marriage and the way we live, love and respect one another. Yet even after Kyle and I had finished “Love and Respect” and we were finally married, I struggled in my mind with exactly what respect meant and looked like.
I needed practical ways of how I could show respect to Kyle. My complex mind needed every day, in and out, perceptible ways to live out my respect for him.
So, I started to make a list! And if you know me at all, you know I have a perpetual love for lists and bullet points (seriously, who doesn’t love putting a checkmark in those little boxes on a list?) yea, only crazy people don’t like that.
Anywho, I have kept that list on the wall by my bed ever since. Respect is not easily learned and is something that, for me personally, I always need to work on. I fail often! But thankfully I have an ever loving and gracious Heavenly Father who gave me a husband who forgives and keeps on loving me despite my shortcomings!
I don’t know about you but I want others to see and know that my husband is a man deeply loved and cherished by his wife!
Just as we so desperately want and need to be loved by our men, may we never falter in giving our men the respect, and therefore, LOVE that they need.
It’s so easy to love the way WE want to be loved. But keep in mind that maybe your man needs something a little more/different!
Print off this list! Add your own ideas to it – ways that you can personally love YOUR guy. Comment below with your ideas! I’m always looking for more ways to better love my man.
Post it on your wall so that you may be attentive.
And don’t forget to pray, pray, pray for your man!
I pray that the Lord continues to (gently) reveal where we need to improve and that he will give us fresh and new ideas on how to truly love and RESPECT our men!
(You can find these templates in the Freebies library as well!)
“In any case, as for you individually, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and wives should respect their husbands.” Ephesians 5:33
“A competent wife, how does one find her? Her value is far above pearls. Her husband entrusts his heart to her; and with her he will have all he needs. She brings him good and not trouble all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31: 10-12